Leadership Mentoring
Leadership Mentoring
“What are you doing? Why? How come? What’s that? Why? What’s this? Why? How?” Doesn’t this list of questions bring up fond memories of spending time with young children? There is no end to their questions. They want to know all things about anything and everything. Children are so curious. They explore, question, and wonder. Curiosity is how children learn. When they are curious about something new, they want to explore it.
For most adults, our curiosity has faded. In my coach training I learned that curiosity is a coaching skill. When curiosity takes us below the surface level of life we approach people, situations, and ideas with a quest to know more. We want to explore and discover. Developing a better sense of curiosity can improve our life and increase our learning. Not only that, there is a biochemical benefit to curiosity. When our curiosity rewards us, our brain produces dopamine, a chemical that lifts our moods and gives us a sense of well-being. Who couldn’t use a little more dopamine?
What killed our curiosity? Since curiosity is the natural bend of young children, we have closed the doors of thinking like a child years ago. Things like fear of the unknown, busyness, apathy, avoidance of stress, trauma, and insecurity have stopped our sense of wonder.
Our potential – emotional, social, and innovation – is expressed through the quantity and quality of experiences. I wonder if the less-curious make fewer new friends, join fewer social groups, and take fewer risks. Just wondering.
Jesus said, “Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.” And He took them in His arms and began blessing them, laying His hands on them. Mark 10:15
Children ask questions. Children think anything and everything is possible. Isn’t that refreshing? We must never lose our holy curiosity and our child-like wonder. Let’s keep our curiosity muscles strong by being curious at least twice a day.
Why do I always find myself sexually attracted to older men in leadership roles who believe in me?!?
In high school I found myself attracted to a teacher who truly believed in me and my future. Now I have a wonderful boss who mentors and supports me tremendously. He believes that I will go very far in life and accomplish great things. I have been very successful as a result. I also find this very SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE…!! Do you think it has anything to do with the fact that I grew up without a father figure in my life??
You know, when I saw this question that is exactly what I was going to say, that Myab eyou grew up without a father figure, but I am glad you have seen that without anyone having to point it to you because some people don’t see it that way so I praise you for that. Also I think that the fact of not having had a father in your life makes you “needy” of someone to admire you and all you have achieved, which is very normal, you just need to know that these men may not look at you the way you look at them, they admire you because you are smart, sweet, professional and all the wonderful things you have accomplished which is a great thing and you need to know that, I feel like maybye your mom wasn’t there the way you needed and wanted her to be, I mean of course every mother could have been a better mother, but maybe there is something taht wasn’t told, something that wasn’t let out in the open that has been in your heart that you need to let out?
I was raised my my mom and step dad and even though he was a WONDERFUL man, he wasn’t physically present when we needed him cose he was alywas working and trying to make money to give us the best of everything, and when he was there it was like he wasn’t really, you know? SO there are things taht have been unsaid and because of that I am attracted to men who act older than they are, older men. I am married to a yound man, he is younger then 30, but acts like he is 30 and that to me is something I like, cose I like people who take responsibility and keep me safe, and you may say, well safety is something everyone likes, which is true, but to me it is something that I NEED, I FEEL A NEED FOR IT because I didn’t have it a a child, not mentally not emotionally, not physically, and in a way I married the wonderful man I married because he keeps me safe but I didn’t let that be the only reason I married him or dated him when we were dating. So maybe you need to get counseling and tools on how to deal with it because in the end when you have a relationship with someone you don’t want it to be because of something, an issue that comes from childhood but because it is a healthy beautiful relationship that blossomed from the beautiful woman you now are!
Good luck and let me know if you need someone to talk to!
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