Transformational Coaching
Transformational Coaching
We’ve been trained to give our power away since day one. We are born defenseless and need someone to care for us, feed us, love us and show us the ropes on this planet. We are not powerless though, we are full of love, insights, creativity and amazing abilities to grow, heal, and learn. What we learn though seems to be more up to the ones raising us, teaching us and surrounding us. Until we get to a stage in our life when we realize the lessons are more about unlearning all the stuff that wasn’t true in the first place. But until we get to that place, we have learned first and foremost to give our power away to the people and things we feel dependent on. It’s a basic survival technique that we’ve mastered well. And good thing otherwise we might not be around now to learn how to reclaim our power.
What do you still give your power away to? Family, relationships, work, money, food, sex, drugs, alcohol, or all of the above? And why? For love, attention, approval, safety, excitement, inclusion? Or to avoid isolation, rejection, judgment, guilt, fear, pain, loneliness and so on? And what does it cost you? Your health, peace, joy, sanity and overall freedom? Once you start to look at the things you give your power away to, why you do this, and what it’s costing you, you’ll discover it’s easier to turn the tables around and start owning your power.
Reclaiming your power is often a layering process, starting with the most obvious and working your way deeper and deeper through the muck until you find gold. You are the gold. The muck is who you thought you were, only because it’s been with you for most of your life. You may be reluctant to let it go at first, because it’s so cozy and warm and has been a protective cushion for so long. The problem is that while you thought it was protecting you from the harsh outside world, all along it’s been keeping you from your true self, which has the real power for safety, love and freedom. As you connect more deeply to your true self, you will be more willing to release all of that which is not you, and this in turn frees you to embrace more of your true self and on and on it goes.
Take some time to meditate on who you really are, underneath all the layers of who you think you are; your job, your roles, the masks you wear, the persona you don. As you sit in stillness and silence and connect to your expansive true essence, play with letting go of all that is not truly you, at least temporarily. Imagine who you would be and what your life would be like if you didn’t need your job, your family roles, your personas and masks you wear to get your needs met. What if you could have all the love, security, attention and fulfillment without bartering it for your true self?
I am interested in becoming a life coach. How much can I make doing it?
Through my workplace I was able to work with a lifecoach and I must say that the results were transformational in nature. I really loved the idea of a lifecoach and would like to pursue getting some training to be a coach. I know there are several ways to learn, however, I would like to know roughly how much money I could expect to earn as a Life coach….any help?
to respond to the first question I feel that I must add that I am not in it solely for the money. Realisticaly speaking we cannot all be so autruistic about helping people. Certainly I want to help people for the same of doing so; however, if I am choosing to change my career, I need to know that my family can be supported. Thanks for answering
I am a life coach, and I NEVER said to myself or anyone else “how much can I make doing it.” I just said I knew I could help people, and the money would come. You are approaching this from an old paradigm perspective without the trust and faith that this is what you are supposed to be doing, which says to me you shouldn’t do it.
I am being honest, but this says to me you are going to do things to get money out of people rather than because you have a good base of wisdom and knowledge.
Transformational Coaching Part 1 | Kute Blackson | Life Coach | Self Help | Selfhelp
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